The Alternatives with No Help!

So what then happens in cases where a child can not be managed in the home but the "powers that be" determine out of care is not warranted. This sometimes results in harsh or even abusive, in some cases, to try to control and keep the child in check. In other cases the caregiver gives up trying to control and the child is left with little to no rules and boundaries. These children often end up getting into worse trouble, though not necessarily illegal so again it is under the scope of getting more help.

So why then in America is it so hard for a parent to get help with these emotionally disturbed children that show difficult behaviors. Isn't it better to have a safe haven where a staff can work with the child on these issues and still have the parent be involved and visit in a safe environment. It is especially disturbing when an adoptive parent with training and experience in emotionally disturbed and behavioral children is crying out that the behaviors are out of control and not receiving any support but again told that they should be able to manage it in their own home. In some cases at the risk of other children and family members.

I have seen the health of family members in the home deteriorate in certain cases due the the pressures and stress of dealing with these children needing more help. Their emotional health is also at rist due to the pressures and stress of raising such children. I do not advocate abandoning such children but rather safe and controlled environments and continued involvement from loved ones. In this way maybe these children can come around instead of a situation in the home potentially leading to abuse or a child running the streets with little rules. In my next blog I will look at some options that do exist in our society.